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| | | ✅ Today's Checklist: How to fight fair (even when emotions run hot) Joanna shares what getting LASIK was really like Recipe of the week: Healthy Sweet Potato Pie
🤔 Trivia: What ancient Roman festival, held in mid-December, involved gift-giving, feasts, and role reversals—and heavily influenced Christmas traditions? Find out. |
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| | | | | | | How to Fight Fair (And Not Regret it Later) |
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| Conflict with partners and family is unavoidable. You're going to disagree. You're going to get frustrated. You're going to say things you feel strongly about.
What matters is how you fight.
Not perfectly. Just fairly.
Here's a practical guide to fighting in a way that actually moves things forward, even when emotions are high.
(This breakdown explains the psychology behind it, if you want to go deeper.)
Rules that keep fights from going off the rails Stay on the current issue
If you're arguing about the dishes, keep it about the dishes. Bringing up something from three years ago turns one problem into ten and guarantees nothing gets resolved. Call out the behavior, not the person
"You didn't follow through" is very different from "you're unreliable." Character attacks shut people down. Behavior gives you something to fix. Be specific
"You always" and "you never" put people on defense. Try naming the moment instead: what happened, when it happened, and how it landed for you. Don't threaten the relationship Throwing out "maybe we should break up" or "I'm done" when you don't mean it creates fear, not resolution. The relationship isn't leverage. No name-calling
Once you start insulting each other, the original issue is gone. If you're too angry to speak without crossing that line, pause the conversation. Keep spectators out of it
Pulling in parents, friends, or siblings turns a disagreement into a power play. This stays between the people actually involved. Don't disappear
Shutting down or stonewalling causes real damage. If you need a break, say how long you need and come back when you said you would. Acknowledge their feelings
"You're overreacting" ends conversations fast. You don't have to agree, but showing curiosity helps: "Help me understand why this matters to you." Aim for resolution, not victory
Winning an argument at the expense of trust isn't a win. Focus on what fixes the problem, not who's right. Own your part
If you crossed a line, say so. A clean apology sounds like: "I shouldn't have said that. I'm sorry." No qualifiers.
Fighting is normal. Fighting dirty isn't.
Arguments are part of close relationships. (This is especially true in families.)
What determines whether conflict strengthens or erodes a relationship is how it's handled. You're still on the same team, even when it doesn't feel like it in the moment.
Fair fights protect trust. Dirty ones quietly chip away at it. |
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| | | | HR That Keeps Up With How Teams Actually Work |
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| If you're still piecing together HR workflows with spreadsheets, scattered platforms, and manual processes; it's costing more than just time.
From onboarding to global payroll, these tools are trusted by HR leaders who want to work smarter, scale faster, and focus on what really matters: supporting people.
1. HiBob
Built for modern, distributed teams, HiBob combines performance management, culture tools, and core HR functions in one beautifully designed platform. It makes everything—from onboarding workflows to time off requests to people analytics—feel cohesive and intuitive. With customizable dashboards and real-time org charts, HiBob helps you stay connected to your team and make data-informed decisions with confidence.
2. Deel
Scaling across borders? Deel makes global hiring seamless with built-in compliance, payroll, and contractor management in over 150 countries. You can hire full-time employees or contractors without needing a local entity—and Deel handles the heavy lifting. Think taxes, benefits, visas, localized contracts, and more. Bonus: they also offer automated invoicing and integrations with your existing tools, so your finance and HR teams stay in sync.
Best Practices from Top People Teams Automate repetitive tasks (hello, onboarding!) Centralize employee data for better reporting and decisions Use customizable workflows for hiring, reviews, and requests Integrate your tech stack—no more tool sprawl Prioritize the employee experience, not just admin needs
Because thriving teams don't run on spreadsheets and duct tape. They run on HR tools built for today's workplace. |
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| | | | What Getting LASIK Was Actually Like |
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| I recently got LASIK, and when I posted about it on Instagram, a bunch of friends DM'd me asking what the procedure was actually like. So I wanted to share my experience here, especially for anyone who's been on the fence.
I've worn glasses or contacts since sixth grade. Both my parents have bad distance vision, so this always felt inevitable. I know the routine well: ripped contacts while traveling, panic when I forgot backups, and that constant low-grade anxiety of not being able to see clearly without tiny pieces of plastic in my eyes.
My husband had LASIK three years ago, and watching how much mental space it freed up for him was what finally pushed me. No packing contacts. No bedside glasses. No "can you read that?" moments.
So I booked a consultation.
The consultation
I went to Maloney-Shamie-Hura Vision Institute, the same place my husband went. The consult was thorough but straightforward. They ran a series of tests to check things like prescription stability, cornea thickness, eye pressure, and overall eye health. You'll stare into a lot of machines and follow lights with your eyes. Nothing hurts, it just takes time.
After testing, I met with the surgeon who would perform my LASIK. They confirmed I was a good candidate, explained the procedure step by step, walked me through recovery, and set expectations for what most people feel afterward.
Procedure day
Day of, I showed up makeup-free, no jewelry, in comfortable clothes. After paperwork, they gave me an oral sedative to relax me.
They cleaned around my eyes with iodine, then numbed my eyes with drops so I wouldn't feel pain. Once under the LASIK machine, they positioned my eye and used suction, which creates pressure. That was the most intense sensation, but it wasn't painful.
The entire procedure took about 15 minutes.
You stare at lights the whole time. Mine were red and green and honestly felt like a trippy Christmas light show. At one point, I smelled the laser burning, which was probably the weirdest part. Mentally strange, physically fine. None of it hurt.
Right after
I could see immediately. The sedatives hit harder afterward, and my husband had to help me to the car. They put protective goggles on my eyes and instructed me to keep them closed.
Sleep is crucial. They sent me home with Ambien: one pill to sleep right after the procedure and another for later that night. My procedure was mid-afternoon, and I slept for over four hours once I got home.
Because LA traffic made the drive home long, the numbing drops wore off and I felt some discomfort. If you've ever experienced a bad case of dry eye, it felt similar: stinging, watery, uncomfortable, but manageable. By that evening, I was able to see pretty much perfectly, and just felt a little dryness.
Recovery + results
Follow-ups were at one week, one month, and three months. Recovery has been smooth. I avoided eye makeup for about a week to prevent irritation or infection. I had mild dryness for about a month but no halos or night vision issues.
At my checkup, they told me I had super vision—20/15 vision in my right eye!
All in, it cost about ~$6,000 out of pocket, and to me, it has been more than worth it.
Waking up and seeing clearly, traveling without contacts, and never worrying about my eyes has been one of those quiet upgrades that pays off every single day. |
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| | | | | Movement that Honors Your Body, Not Punishes It |
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| Your workouts should nourish you, not drain you.
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